Fighting for love

is an oxymoron.

- Yogafly

I remember fighting with ex-boyfriends - and I don't like fighting.  I do love constructive discussions - but fighting, with all its emotions, negative words, back and forth - is so soul-depleting - that I came up with the above conclusion.  Generally, fighting comes in because one person feels "unloved" by the other.  When we realize, as Shri Brahmananda Sarasvati reminds us over and over again, that we are LOVE itself, then we realize that we don't have to fight over what we already inherently have.

And then we can go about the true acts of loving - which includes acts of forgiveness, openness, providing space, care, understanding, compassion and helping each other bring out each other's gifts to the world.