Rilke on Marriage...

"The point of marriage is not to create a quick commonality by tearing down
all boundaries; on the contrary, a good marriage is one in which each partner
appoints the other to be the guardian of his solitude, and thus they show each
other the greatest possible trust. A merging of two people is an impossibility,
and where it seems to exist, it is a hemming-in, a mutual consent that robs
one party or both parties of their fullest freedom and development. But once
the realization is accepted that even between the closest people infinite
distances exist, a marvelous living side-by-side can grow up for them,
if they succeed in loving the expanse between them, which gives
them the possibility of always seeing each other as a whole
and before an immense sky."

-Rainier Maria Rilke